DID A SCHOOL (LGS) JUST TOOK A LIFE OF A YOUNG WOMEN?

Those of you who are blaming the school and it's teachers for Maryam's death, stop criticizing the education system. Every school has it's policies and if you don't follow these policies you will definitely face disapproval from the admin. Scolding students for entering the class 5 minutes late and not completing their attendance requirement is only helpful to them in long term. I'm not saying that school was right to not support her on her choices but that is not the only reason for the depression she suffered from. If a student passes away it does not necessarily mean that the education system she studied in was flawed. I might sound heartless while saying this but her mother (maybe due to her emotional state) is only pointing out the negative aspects of school, what about the activities in which school totally supported her (directly or indirectly)? Every student goes under some kind of pressure in school but school cannot individually cater each student's mental health needs, it's primarily PARENT'S responsibility to take care of their child's mental health.

Also the irony is; there is huge difference in Maryam's mother's attitude. The last time we listened to her at prize distribution ceremony she said she was thankful to the school and stated that her daughter was a depressed child who needed your love and you all gave it to her and referred to us as "my Maryams". No idea what has changed her mind now.

We believe whatever we hear on media and start promoting it without knowing the complete facts. There is also stuff we hear from her close friends; like she was depressed due to family issues which forced her to take anti-depressants and she did not get as much attention from her mother as a child should usually get. Then why are we neglecting these statements. If you really want to evaluate the causes of someone's death then look at all the factors first. She was a daughter, friend, cousin, niece and much more than just a student. A young student's death does not mean that the school took away her life!

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MAKE YOUR DAUGHTER'S A PRODUCTIVE MEMBER OF SOCIETY ! GIVE THEM SOME FREEDOM !

I’ve realized that we expect young girls to know certain things without giving them the opportunity to learn them.

They’re not trusted with a car alone but are ridiculed for not knowing how it works and what goes into fixing minor glitches.

Girls in green playing national/international sports invite all kinds of jokes/criticism/snipes but an average girl is teased for not knowing the mechanics of tennis/cricket/soccer.

They’re not trusted with their accounts/property dealings but are mocked at for not knowing the technicalities of these complicated transactions.

They are not allowed to spend more time out of the house with their friends without a Damocles sword hanging over their head to return home before it’s “too late” and yet they’re told they’re too compulsive and don’t know how to engage with people.

They’re not encouraged to participate in our ever so passionate drawing room conversations on politics and the world but they’re criticized for not knowing enough about how the world’s running. (Sit back, shut up and listen.)

If they’re not born genius, they’re soon relegated to obscurity of the “ordinary girl” (Too bad she doesn’t act like a computer at the age of 5. No use sending her to college.)

They're not a liability but they're turned into one. No second chances.

They’re hastily put into rigid binaries of “different” and “ordinary” and that’s supposed to be a compliment.

They’re not taught self-defense yet they’re called weak.

You’re just a girl. You don’t know how the world works.
Yes. Because you made me so afraid of falling down that I never had the heart to try. I “arranged whatever pieces came my way”

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DID AYESHA GULALAI PLAYED THE WOMEN CARD ?!!

Okay, so here goes: Yes, Ayesha Gulalai has made serious allegations and yes, they should all be investigated (including the corruption charges she made).


 


No, that doesn't mean you can attack her person, her family, her ethnicity. Yes, you are free to have doubts over what she's saying. No, it doesn't mean its a given that she's lying just because she didn't come forward earlier. 

No, it's not okay to talk about her 'izzat' or her sister's. Yes, Imran Khan has the right to ask for an investigation. And no, that doesn't mean she was a) asking for it, b) had asked Imran to marry her, c) got money from the PML-N and d) has disrespected 'Pakhtun' tradition. We don't get to comment on her father or her sister or their 'izzat'. 
We do get to comment on investigations and processes. We also get to ponder over how impossible it is for a woman here to come forward with any such issue because the lynch mobs -- men and women -- will happily shred her to pieces.


How hard is it to understand how to react to harassment allegations?

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