HOW A LIFE WAS SAVED BY A TOOTHPASTE ! LIFE LESSON

My daughter starts middle school tomorrow. We've decorated her locker, bought new uniforms, even surprised her with a new backpack. But tonight just before bed, we did another pre-middle school task that is far more important than the others. I gave her a tube of toothpaste and asked her to squirt it out onto a plate. When she finished, I calmly asked her to put all the toothpaste back in the tube. She began exclaiming things like "But I can't!" and "It won't be like it was before!" I quietly waited for her to finish and then said the following:

"You will remember this plate of toothpaste for the rest of your life. Your words have the power of life or death. As you go into middle school, you are about to see just how much weight your words carry. You are going to have the opportunity to use your words to hurt, demean, slander and wound others. You are also going to have the opportunity to use your words to heal, encourage, inspire and love others. You will occasionally make the wrong choice; I can think of three times this week I have used my own words carelessly and caused harm. Just like this toothpaste, once the words leave your mouth, you can't take them back. Use your words carefully, Breonna. When others are misusing their words, guard your words. Make the choice every morning that life-giving words will come out of your mouth. Decide tonight that you are going to be a life-giver in middle school. Be known for your gentleness and compassion. Use your life to give life to a world that so desperately needs it. You will never, ever regret choosing kindness."

SOURCE Amy Beth,

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MAKE YOUR DAUGHTER'S A PRODUCTIVE MEMBER OF SOCIETY ! GIVE THEM SOME FREEDOM !

I’ve realized that we expect young girls to know certain things without giving them the opportunity to learn them.

They’re not trusted with a car alone but are ridiculed for not knowing how it works and what goes into fixing minor glitches.

Girls in green playing national/international sports invite all kinds of jokes/criticism/snipes but an average girl is teased for not knowing the mechanics of tennis/cricket/soccer.

They’re not trusted with their accounts/property dealings but are mocked at for not knowing the technicalities of these complicated transactions.

They are not allowed to spend more time out of the house with their friends without a Damocles sword hanging over their head to return home before it’s “too late” and yet they’re told they’re too compulsive and don’t know how to engage with people.

They’re not encouraged to participate in our ever so passionate drawing room conversations on politics and the world but they’re criticized for not knowing enough about how the world’s running. (Sit back, shut up and listen.)

If they’re not born genius, they’re soon relegated to obscurity of the “ordinary girl” (Too bad she doesn’t act like a computer at the age of 5. No use sending her to college.)

They're not a liability but they're turned into one. No second chances.

They’re hastily put into rigid binaries of “different” and “ordinary” and that’s supposed to be a compliment.

They’re not taught self-defense yet they’re called weak.

You’re just a girl. You don’t know how the world works.
Yes. Because you made me so afraid of falling down that I never had the heart to try. I “arranged whatever pieces came my way”

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DID AYESHA GULALAI PLAYED THE WOMEN CARD ?!!

Okay, so here goes: Yes, Ayesha Gulalai has made serious allegations and yes, they should all be investigated (including the corruption charges she made).


 


No, that doesn't mean you can attack her person, her family, her ethnicity. Yes, you are free to have doubts over what she's saying. No, it doesn't mean its a given that she's lying just because she didn't come forward earlier. 

No, it's not okay to talk about her 'izzat' or her sister's. Yes, Imran Khan has the right to ask for an investigation. And no, that doesn't mean she was a) asking for it, b) had asked Imran to marry her, c) got money from the PML-N and d) has disrespected 'Pakhtun' tradition. We don't get to comment on her father or her sister or their 'izzat'. 
We do get to comment on investigations and processes. We also get to ponder over how impossible it is for a woman here to come forward with any such issue because the lynch mobs -- men and women -- will happily shred her to pieces.


How hard is it to understand how to react to harassment allegations?

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